Prayers for Newtown Families

Yesterday, a senseless act of violence took away the most precious gift – the gift of life from so many, including 20 young children, in Newtown, CT, at Sandy Hook Elementary School.

I ask that all who read this please take a moment to lift in prayer the families who lost children and loved ones, the community of Newtown, the staff and teachers at Sandy Hook Elementary School. Healing will take a long time and it will not be easy, especially at this time of year. Continue to pray for them regularly.

Dear Jesus, I ask that you walk beside the families who lost children and loved ones and hold them in the palm of your hand. Lead us and guide us in how to comfort them and provide help in any way we can.

Mark Thunem,

President, Tres Dias of Fairfield County



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Tres Dias Family Potluck Picnic Secuela

It will be the first Fairfield County community picnic in recent years.The plans call for a traditional family-style cookout, with TDFC providing plenty of hamburgers and hot dogs. But the event organizers, the fourth-day team of Duncan Brown and Rich Kelly, emphasize that the picnic will not be so much “potluck” as “pot trust.” “We’ll need the participants to provide all the other picnic stuffs: condiments, plates, cups, plastic ware, desserts, salads, soda, and water, as well as games, instruments, lawn chairs, and blankets,” Duncan reported at the annual meeting. “And we trust God that they will.”

The Tentative Schedule
11:00 – 12:00– Setup: light grills, hang balloons, sweep pavilion, hang banners, line trash cans, lay out drinks, etc.
12:00 – 1:00– Pescadores & family arrivals; open fellowship; background music
1:00 – 2:00 – Fellowship lunch – formal welcome; TDFC announcements; scripture reading; opening prayer of thanks
1:30 – 2:00 – Joyful music and singing
2:00 – 3:30 – Various games – volleyball, egg toss contest or water balloon toss contest, wiffle ball, etc. Activities wll be provided for younger children.
3:30 – 4:30 – Second round of food
4:00 – 4:30 – Joyful music & singing
4:30 – 5:00 – Communion; end of picnic
5:00 – 5:30 – Clean-up
RSVP by 19th.

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What fun! We look forward to seeing you there!

Mark Thunem, President
Tres Dias of Fairfield County

On Being Touched

by John Pacheco, Rector, Men’s 96

Shortly after I had agreed to serve as rector on Men’s 96, I was reminded I needed to choose a scripture passage for the weekend. I immediately thought of my favorite Bible passage, the healing of a blind man at Bethsaida as shared by Mark 8:22–26:

22 They came to Bethsaida, and some
people brought a blind man and begged
Jesus to touch him. 23 He took the blind
man by the hand and led him outside
the village. When he had spit on the
man’s eyes and put his hands on him,
Jesus asked, “Do you see anything?”
24 He looked up and said, “I see people;
they look like trees walking
25 Once more Jesus put his hands on
the man’s eyes. Then his eyes were
opened, his sight was restored, and
he saw everything clearly. 26 Jesus
sent him home, saying, “Don’t even go
into the village.” NIV 1984

I realized the passage was too long to fit on the name tags, so I chose to focus on verse 25 as the weekend scripture. I also decided that at team meetings and on the weekend we would tune into the entire passage. The passage is attractive to me because it not only raises questions but also allows me to put myself into the picture in a variety of roles. It is a reminder of my personal journey in faith, through my dark valleys of disappointments, rejections, confusions, and losses, as well as an affirmation of final healing, restoration, and redemption. I am reminded of Jesus’ ability to come to me, and to keep coming back with his gifts of unconditional love, grace and healing. When I struggle to get beyond my innate stubbornness, I am also reminded that I have to go back to him repeatedly, even when I don’t feel like it!

While I often wish I could be like Saul and have an “instant conversion” experience, God has chosen to make himself known to me in a gradual process. I don’t always get it clear the first time he’s there, and he comes back and touches me repeatedly until I see everything clearly. I pray frequently for discernment and for patience in the process.

As I called the team together, this continual process of being touched by Jesus, of his coming and touching me, and/or of my going to him to be touched became increasingly evident. At each encounter, my eyes opened to a further understanding of his will for me. By the end of the weekend, I am likely to be referred to as being a little bit ”touched!.” I am already feeling it! The healing in the verses also parallels my personal vocation and career as a counselor, as well as the mission of Tres Dias, “to make a friend, be a friend, and to bring that friend to Christ.”

I mentioned earlier that the entire passage leaves us with questions. Why do you think Jesus took the blind man by the hand “out of the village,” and why do you think he sent him home saying, “Don’t even go into the village?” Any feedback would be appreciated. On behalf of the team and candidates, I thank you for your prayers and palanca now, throughout the weekend and in our Fourth Days.

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Brigitte Hahn

For those who may not have heard, Brigitte Hahn passed away last month. She was active in Tres Dias, providing Palanca for members of Stanwich and past team members that she knew. She was also very active in the Kairos Prison Ministry for a number of years. She lived alone and her body was discovered Saturday 11/26 at her home. She passed away in her sleep apparently.

There will be a memorial service on Monday, January 16th at 11 am, with a reception following:

Stanwich Church
202 Taconic Rd
Greenwich, CT 06830

Southbound: Take Exit 31 (North Street). At end of exit turn left onto North Street. Proceed north 0.9 mile and turn right onto South Stanwich Road. Continue across reservoir 0.5 mile and up hill to stop sign. Turn left onto Taconic Road and continue 0.3 mile to Stanwich Church. Turn right into the parking lot.
Northbound: Take Exit 31 (North Street). At end of ramp, turn right on North Street. Follow directions from North Street as above.

Southbound: Take Exit 4 (Indian Field Road). At end of exit ramp turn right onto Indian Field Road. Continue to stoplight at intersection with Route 1, East Putnam Avenue. There is a Sunoco station on left and a Mobil station on the right. Cross Route 1 and bear right onto Old Post Road for 150 yards. Take first left onto Stanwich Road and continue north. You will cross two intersections, one at Fairfield Road and another at Orchard Street. Continue north about 5 miles on Stanwich Road. Drive
straight through the intersection with Taconic Road, and turn left into the church parking lot about 100 yards past the intersection.
Northbound: Take Exit 4 (Indian Field Road). At end of exit ramp turn left onto Indian Field Road. Follow directions from Indian Field Road as above.

From the President (In the latest Upper room Newsletter)

My original intention for this letter was to focus on this time of the year. Summer has passed and now autumn has begun. Fall is upon us once again – Harvest time.

Then I picked up my Bible to see what it had to say about harvest. The first passage I read sent my thoughts in an entirely new direction. Here is what the Good Word says:

Then he said to his disciples “The Harvest is plentiful but the
workers are few. Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send
out workers into his harvest field.” (Matthew 9:35-38)

Jesus said something similar when he referred to his followers as “fishers of men.” Those words were spoken to two of his disciples.

Here, Jesus was looking at the crowds following him and referred to them as a field ripe for harvest.

We as a community are richly blessed with many workers, people who will gladly go out into our “harvest field” to seek out those who are (or perhaps might be) thirsty for His word, who want to have a deeper relationship with Jesus Christ. Many people are ready to give their lives to Christ if someone would lead them to that point. All of us, including myself, need to have faith in ourselves, or rather, faith in how the Spirit of the Lord will use us to reach out to others.

Jesus commands us to pray that people will respond to his need for workers. Often, when we pray for something, God answers our prayers by using us.

Be prepared and open for God to use you to show another person the way to Him. Ask Him who he is putting on your heart to sponsor, so that he or she will experience a love-filled, thought provoking wonderful three days.

De Colores!
Mark Thunem, President

Women’s 95 Weekend Postponed

Due to the storm and power issues persisting at the NSLC and the town of Monroe, Women’s 95 has been postponed. Once a new date has been determined, this will be relayed.

Of Many Colors

Praise God for the sunny days that drench the trees as the leaves start to change colors and the harvest begins. Bright orange pumpkins and deep red apples remind us of decolores. The Men’s Weekend #95 is upon us, followed by Women’s #95 in November. Keep these teams and the candidates that God will send in prayer. Be prepared to support the weekends by serving, praying, and coming to the closings to help the candidates transition back in to the world.God is depending on you!

The Long, Hot Days of Summer

While we are all enjoying the summer sun, teams have begun gathering together to prepare for the Fall. Men;s Weekend #95 will be in October, followed by Women’s 95 in November. While you sit by the pool or in the shade at the baseball field, give a thought or two to inviting one or more of your friends to experience a Tres Dias weekend, or if they have, to fill out a biography to serve on team. What better way to share the warmth? Have a joyous and fun-filled Summer and spread the word that great things are happening.

Men’s 94 Closing

Today is the day the Lord has made. Fellow Tres Dias Community members, remember the closing ceremony begins at 4:15 this afternoon at the Nazareth Spiritual Life Center. Try to arrive by 4 pm.